Remember that old button on the internet called a bookmark?
Does anyone even use that anymore? If you do, here is another opportunity. If you don't, dust it off and get ready.
Cassie and I are starting a couples blog. It will have our story as well as our adventures together from here on out. We hope that people can find it an inspiration if you are going through the same situations that we have had and will face.
Check it out at www.thekoinoniablog.blogspot.com
Cheers!
Friday, May 31, 2013
Marcos Guest Posts
A little change in posts this morning.
Most of you probably do not know that I am an Eagle Scout with the Boy Scouts of America. I get questions all the time when I tell people that I am an Eagle whether it's still a good organization and whether I will eventually put my children into it. The answer is 'yes'.
I am the tenth Eagle in my family dating back to my grandfather on my dad's side. I learned a ton about myself, the outdoors, leadership and made a lot of good friends along the way. I have a slew of wonderful memories that I will never forget, despite controversy that has arisen in the BSA since I received my Eagle nearly 7 years ago.
Because of the new ruling to allow openly gay young men into the BSA, I asked my friend Marcos to guest post as he has a unique perspective on the ruling.
Marcos and I go back into my elementary school days. He was friends with my brother first and we became friends through that connection. We did cross country together, our families went on a cruise together and he and I were boy scouts together. His dad was a parent leader and he and I were tent mates through two trips to the Boy Scout's 11 day backpacking camp; Philmont, in New Mexico.
Read through what he has to say because it is incredibly insightful and interesting nonetheless.
When I was asked to write a guest post about the recent approval to allow young gay men into the Boy Scouts of America I was excited and appreciative of the opportunity. However the more I reflected on the event, how it relates to me personally and it’s implications I quickly grew hesitant. I was unsure of what I wanted to say, what you all would want to hear and how to approach the topic in way that explains my position while providing a clear explanation why. The following is my own perspective on this matter and does not necessarily reflect the opinions of any other scouts, Eagle scouts and/or gay/queer men. And while I personally identify as queer (gay) and am a card carrying Eagle scout and will provide some context from my own experiences, I did not want this post to turn into a gay memoir of my scouting experience, so with that said here we go…
(P.S. I have never written a blog post before!)
The Boy Scouts of America has recently deliberated and decided to permit young scouts who are openly gay to participate in their organization. Like any other arena in our American society the inclusion of gay people always seems to be a divisive issue and one that impacts many people in a very direct and personal ways. Some people may feel threatened by the inclusion of those different than them, while others feel personally and emotionally attacked by the organization and it’s blatant discrimination. A simple search through google will show you that it is pretty easy to find people on both sides of this perspective, however I feel as if I have not read anything that reflects what I believe and/or feel about this recent decision.
It is my opinion that by allowing young gay boys into Scouts while still discriminating and preventing gay adults to participate in the organization may have more negative and detrimental effects than not allowing any gay people in. According to the new rules, once an openly gay scout reaches 18, they are essentially prevented from being an active part of the organization, so even if this scouting becomes an important part of this young persons life, eventually the organization will say “we don’t want you here anymore.” From my own experiences in scouts, one of the most important fixtures in a troop is strong leadership and parent involvement. However with this new legislation if a child, homosexual or heterosexual, wants to participate in scouts and their parent identifies as homosexual, they will not have the same opportunities to interact and learn from their parent(s) the same way that a child who has heterosexual parents will. In my own troop we had events like cake auctions, family campouts, awards ceremonies, etc, and I wonder if this new regulation will prevent homosexual parents from providing their child and their child’s troop the support that is pivotal for an engaging and active troop. I have seen BSA troops suffer because the older scouts once they earn their Eagle Scout (the highest rank in the BSA), they no longer are active in the troop. This I feel could be a common problem, those with the insight and experience to provide solid leadership, don’t. So it seems to me like shooting one’s self in the foot to openly and blatantly discriminate against people who may very well be able to offer not only a new perspective, but also provide needed leadership, all because some people don’t like what they do with their bodies with other people. And if a scout has gay parents, the prevention of them participating in their child’s extracurricular activities, I believe this can/will create a sense of shame and embarrassment in the scouts and parents minds. Imagine someone telling your son or your brother, cousin, whatever that you can come to this campout with the other families, but yours can’t come. It’s so blatantly offensive it seems ridiculous to me.
I am also interested in how the BSA is going to ensure that openly gay scouts are not bullied, targeted or harassed in their troops, and have not heard of any decisive action to do so.
There is no doubt in my mind that one of the largest motivators to allow openly gay youth and not adults into the organization is the fear of potential sexual abuse of the scouts by an adult. In our culture we are not strangers to the MYTH that homosexual people are inherently sexual perverts who prey on children, especially if the gay person is a man. This is a similar and just as false assumption as homosexuality leading to bestiality, and both of these lies have been perpetuated so much through our society, often times people don’t even question the validity of such ignorant statements. I encourage you all to do your own research on the subject but multiple studies have shown that most pedophiles who abuse children of their same sex DO NOT identify as gay and often maintain what society would call a “normal” relationship with an “age appropriate partner” of the opposite sex. This is a point that I think is very important to discus and reflect upon. If the BSA is preventing openly gay men from being involved in the organization out of fear that peoples children might be sexually abused or harassed (in a homosexual way, whatever that is) why are they not concerned that the scout leaders who identify as heterosexual who could also abuse and harass their children. If you type “scouting sex abuse cases” into Wikipedia, it will become clear very quickly that men in positions of power (and who identify as heterosexual, because they couldn’t be scout leaders otherwise) have taken advantage and sexually abused scouts. So this is where I say, “hey Boy Scouts of America, your homophobia is showing!” What makes this so homophobic is that as a culture/society we ASSUME that openly gay people are going to be the sexual deviants, but most people do not assume that their 16 year old daughters male basketball coach is going to rape her, their doctor will touch them inappropriately, or that because one identifies as heterosexual they SHOULD be trusted to take your children backpacking. What makes sense to me is to create and organization and social structure where children are not EVER put in a situation to be abused (sexually or otherwise), so I think it is important to ask, in what situations could a child be exploited or sexually abused (any circumstance that puts them alone with an adult for a period of time) and make changes to prevent ANY possibility of abuse which as I have pointed out can be at the hands of heterosexual people too. If the organization is creating a truly safe space for these youths, then I am confused as to how one sexual identity or preference has anything to do with being a good mentor, parent and/or friend.
Before I finish this entry I want to point something out. You may have noticed that in this piece I refer to “openly gay” scouts and adults, this was a very deliberate choice. It is important to understand that just because a person is or has homosexual feelings, it does not mean that they appreciate them, act on them or feel comfortable enough to be honest about them. When I earned my Eagle Scout I was gay, but not open or “out.” At this time it was against BSA rules to allow gay scouts in the organization, but I can tell you right now, I was gay ALL THROUGHOUT my scouting experience, up to and including receiving their highest honor.
I could keep going but I don’t want this to turn into a rant or get way off topic, and I think I at least addressed the issues I see with this ruling.
So to end, I believe the Boy Scouts of America to incredibly homophobic and prejudicial to families with homosexual children and/or parents. I believe this new rule is still grounded in ignorant homophobia and while some would claim this as a small victory, the inclusion of gay youths and discriminating against gay adults is still homophobic discrimination, and my heart goes out to those families and all those who are not fully accepted, or respected because there are people who are scared of the fact that we can love another person.
Marcos Guerrero Trujillo
“Fabulous” Eagle Scout
5-30-2013
Most of you probably do not know that I am an Eagle Scout with the Boy Scouts of America. I get questions all the time when I tell people that I am an Eagle whether it's still a good organization and whether I will eventually put my children into it. The answer is 'yes'.
I am the tenth Eagle in my family dating back to my grandfather on my dad's side. I learned a ton about myself, the outdoors, leadership and made a lot of good friends along the way. I have a slew of wonderful memories that I will never forget, despite controversy that has arisen in the BSA since I received my Eagle nearly 7 years ago.
Because of the new ruling to allow openly gay young men into the BSA, I asked my friend Marcos to guest post as he has a unique perspective on the ruling.
Marcos and I go back into my elementary school days. He was friends with my brother first and we became friends through that connection. We did cross country together, our families went on a cruise together and he and I were boy scouts together. His dad was a parent leader and he and I were tent mates through two trips to the Boy Scout's 11 day backpacking camp; Philmont, in New Mexico.
Read through what he has to say because it is incredibly insightful and interesting nonetheless.
(P.S. I have never written a blog post before!)
The Boy Scouts of America has recently deliberated and decided to permit young scouts who are openly gay to participate in their organization. Like any other arena in our American society the inclusion of gay people always seems to be a divisive issue and one that impacts many people in a very direct and personal ways. Some people may feel threatened by the inclusion of those different than them, while others feel personally and emotionally attacked by the organization and it’s blatant discrimination. A simple search through google will show you that it is pretty easy to find people on both sides of this perspective, however I feel as if I have not read anything that reflects what I believe and/or feel about this recent decision.
It is my opinion that by allowing young gay boys into Scouts while still discriminating and preventing gay adults to participate in the organization may have more negative and detrimental effects than not allowing any gay people in. According to the new rules, once an openly gay scout reaches 18, they are essentially prevented from being an active part of the organization, so even if this scouting becomes an important part of this young persons life, eventually the organization will say “we don’t want you here anymore.” From my own experiences in scouts, one of the most important fixtures in a troop is strong leadership and parent involvement. However with this new legislation if a child, homosexual or heterosexual, wants to participate in scouts and their parent identifies as homosexual, they will not have the same opportunities to interact and learn from their parent(s) the same way that a child who has heterosexual parents will. In my own troop we had events like cake auctions, family campouts, awards ceremonies, etc, and I wonder if this new regulation will prevent homosexual parents from providing their child and their child’s troop the support that is pivotal for an engaging and active troop. I have seen BSA troops suffer because the older scouts once they earn their Eagle Scout (the highest rank in the BSA), they no longer are active in the troop. This I feel could be a common problem, those with the insight and experience to provide solid leadership, don’t. So it seems to me like shooting one’s self in the foot to openly and blatantly discriminate against people who may very well be able to offer not only a new perspective, but also provide needed leadership, all because some people don’t like what they do with their bodies with other people. And if a scout has gay parents, the prevention of them participating in their child’s extracurricular activities, I believe this can/will create a sense of shame and embarrassment in the scouts and parents minds. Imagine someone telling your son or your brother, cousin, whatever that you can come to this campout with the other families, but yours can’t come. It’s so blatantly offensive it seems ridiculous to me.
I am also interested in how the BSA is going to ensure that openly gay scouts are not bullied, targeted or harassed in their troops, and have not heard of any decisive action to do so.
There is no doubt in my mind that one of the largest motivators to allow openly gay youth and not adults into the organization is the fear of potential sexual abuse of the scouts by an adult. In our culture we are not strangers to the MYTH that homosexual people are inherently sexual perverts who prey on children, especially if the gay person is a man. This is a similar and just as false assumption as homosexuality leading to bestiality, and both of these lies have been perpetuated so much through our society, often times people don’t even question the validity of such ignorant statements. I encourage you all to do your own research on the subject but multiple studies have shown that most pedophiles who abuse children of their same sex DO NOT identify as gay and often maintain what society would call a “normal” relationship with an “age appropriate partner” of the opposite sex. This is a point that I think is very important to discus and reflect upon. If the BSA is preventing openly gay men from being involved in the organization out of fear that peoples children might be sexually abused or harassed (in a homosexual way, whatever that is) why are they not concerned that the scout leaders who identify as heterosexual who could also abuse and harass their children. If you type “scouting sex abuse cases” into Wikipedia, it will become clear very quickly that men in positions of power (and who identify as heterosexual, because they couldn’t be scout leaders otherwise) have taken advantage and sexually abused scouts. So this is where I say, “hey Boy Scouts of America, your homophobia is showing!” What makes this so homophobic is that as a culture/society we ASSUME that openly gay people are going to be the sexual deviants, but most people do not assume that their 16 year old daughters male basketball coach is going to rape her, their doctor will touch them inappropriately, or that because one identifies as heterosexual they SHOULD be trusted to take your children backpacking. What makes sense to me is to create and organization and social structure where children are not EVER put in a situation to be abused (sexually or otherwise), so I think it is important to ask, in what situations could a child be exploited or sexually abused (any circumstance that puts them alone with an adult for a period of time) and make changes to prevent ANY possibility of abuse which as I have pointed out can be at the hands of heterosexual people too. If the organization is creating a truly safe space for these youths, then I am confused as to how one sexual identity or preference has anything to do with being a good mentor, parent and/or friend.
Before I finish this entry I want to point something out. You may have noticed that in this piece I refer to “openly gay” scouts and adults, this was a very deliberate choice. It is important to understand that just because a person is or has homosexual feelings, it does not mean that they appreciate them, act on them or feel comfortable enough to be honest about them. When I earned my Eagle Scout I was gay, but not open or “out.” At this time it was against BSA rules to allow gay scouts in the organization, but I can tell you right now, I was gay ALL THROUGHOUT my scouting experience, up to and including receiving their highest honor.
I could keep going but I don’t want this to turn into a rant or get way off topic, and I think I at least addressed the issues I see with this ruling.
So to end, I believe the Boy Scouts of America to incredibly homophobic and prejudicial to families with homosexual children and/or parents. I believe this new rule is still grounded in ignorant homophobia and while some would claim this as a small victory, the inclusion of gay youths and discriminating against gay adults is still homophobic discrimination, and my heart goes out to those families and all those who are not fully accepted, or respected because there are people who are scared of the fact that we can love another person.
Marcos Guerrero Trujillo
“Fabulous” Eagle Scout
5-30-2013
Sunday, May 26, 2013
Being Christian is Hard Work
"5 In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:
6 Who, being in very nature[a] God,
did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;
7 rather, he made himself nothing
by taking the very nature[b] of a servant,
being made in human likeness.
8 And being found in appearance as a man,
he humbled himself
by becoming obedient to death—
even death on a cross!"
- Philippians 2:5-8
Being a Christian is hard. It's not always rainbows and cookies after church. It is a lot of work to maintain.
Just like any relationship in life there is give and take. You have to put in effort to keep friendships and relationships afloat with any sort of life. You can't expect your friend to always be there for you if you never ask them to hang out, buy them dinner or listen to their problems.
Being a Christian is the same thing. Sure, there are some lifestyle standards that God holds us to. Don't curse, help the helpless, fellowship with other believers, drink coffee after church. Those things may make us feel Christian, but do not make us Christian. Being Christian means we are followers of Christ. It does not mean we attend church every Sunday or work in the food kitchen twice per week. While noble and Godly, God wants us to have a relationship with Him and that is what truly makes us Christian.
I find that I feel less Christian when my relationship with Jesus is lacking. Maybe I haven't been to church in a couple weeks, or prayed as much as I should, or opened my bible for a while. I feel like I am not even a Christian at all without those things. I'm still a good person, I still help people in need, I still tell people I am Christian, but I don't always feel that way because the relationship is hurting.
Anyone can have good morals, stand up for injustice, and do what's deemed right, but what really separates Christians from others is our relationship and I pray that everyone continues to nurture that because just like in any earthly relationship, it is a two way street and Jesus needs your input.
6 Who, being in very nature[a] God,
did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;
7 rather, he made himself nothing
by taking the very nature[b] of a servant,
being made in human likeness.
8 And being found in appearance as a man,
he humbled himself
by becoming obedient to death—
even death on a cross!"
- Philippians 2:5-8
Being a Christian is hard. It's not always rainbows and cookies after church. It is a lot of work to maintain.
Just like any relationship in life there is give and take. You have to put in effort to keep friendships and relationships afloat with any sort of life. You can't expect your friend to always be there for you if you never ask them to hang out, buy them dinner or listen to their problems.
Being a Christian is the same thing. Sure, there are some lifestyle standards that God holds us to. Don't curse, help the helpless, fellowship with other believers, drink coffee after church. Those things may make us feel Christian, but do not make us Christian. Being Christian means we are followers of Christ. It does not mean we attend church every Sunday or work in the food kitchen twice per week. While noble and Godly, God wants us to have a relationship with Him and that is what truly makes us Christian.
I find that I feel less Christian when my relationship with Jesus is lacking. Maybe I haven't been to church in a couple weeks, or prayed as much as I should, or opened my bible for a while. I feel like I am not even a Christian at all without those things. I'm still a good person, I still help people in need, I still tell people I am Christian, but I don't always feel that way because the relationship is hurting.
Anyone can have good morals, stand up for injustice, and do what's deemed right, but what really separates Christians from others is our relationship and I pray that everyone continues to nurture that because just like in any earthly relationship, it is a two way street and Jesus needs your input.
Friday, May 24, 2013
Some Stuff and an Award Nomination?
It's been Bike to Work Week here in Flagstaff. Why we do it a week after the National Bike to Work Week is beyond me, but I think it has to do something with the wind Flagstaff usually has in the spring. However, it's windy this week too, so what's the point?
Regardless, I have ridden my bike everyday this week except yesterday (which turned into a great choice because the wind was horrendous and I ended up staying on for a 12+ hour shift.
I have put in 319 Kilometers this month. For those less attuned to the metric system, that's a bit over 190 miles this month. Mostly commuting to and from work. My goal is to hit 250 by month's end, which only takes 3 more days of commuting to hit my goal!
I am already feeling a change of health over my sedentary winter lifestyle. I have started going to a sports chiropractor to get this issue with my foot worked out.
Long story short, my foot began hurting about 19 months ago when I ran. It hasn't gone away completely and I am ready to get back running without worrying about making any injury worse. My Chiropractor, Kim Wilkens, works with sports injuries and I was referred by a friend who does Ironman Triathlons. In fact, he doesn't just do them, he annihilates them! He was 21st overall (including the pros), and 7th overall amateur at last week's Memorial Hermann Ironman in Texas. Pretty amazing.
Onto totally unrelated news. Cassie at Sage nominated me for the Liebster award. Pretty sure she hasn't read my blog or she may think differently. ;) Probably because we are dating (full disclosure) and good couples support each other. So, thank you! What is it you might ask? Here you go:
The word "Liebster" is German for the word "sweetheart" or "dearest." This originated from a German blogger and is for up-and-coming bloggers with less than 3,000 followers. Basically it is NOT an award that is given by judges and a panel of experts on the subject of blogging, rather it is an award from blogging peers who consider you worth giving an award to for your blogger personality. It is now for bloggers with less than 200 followers who have potential. The main point and why to get excited about it, is that it is an award to share love and build community with other bloggers.
After being acknowledged, you should...
1. Acknowledge the blog that nominated you in a post.
2. Answer the 11 questions the nominating blogger created.
3. Tell 11 facts about yourself.
4. List 5 to 11 bloggers with less than 200 followers that you believe deserve some recognition.
5. Post 11 questions for them to answer.
6. Notify all the bloggers selected that they have been nominated and ask them to pass it on.
11 Questions to answer
1. What motivates you to blog?
I think having an outlet to voice my feelings, opinions, advice and wisdom for others who might find it helpful is what drives me to blog.
2. How did you get your first name?
That's a great question that I don't know the answer to. I know that my name (First and Middle) were chosen because of biblical significance, but not sure if that was the main reasoning.
3. What do you think about the phrase, "Let go and let God." What significance does this statement hold for you?
The lock screen on my phone says "Choose Faith, Not Worry" and I think it is similar. You have to realize that God already has a plan for you and your life is mapped out and if you let things worry you, you aren't trusting in God's great plan.
4. What is your opinion on reality television?
I like some shows and can't stand others. Some have substance, some are just debaucherous and I try to avoid those, although sometimes it's just nice to watch a show for the pure enjoyment and nothing else.
5. Public school or homeschooling (even if you are not a mom), and why?
How about charter school! I was a public school kid and didn't mind it in the least. There weren't that many options when I was growing up and God knows my parents did not have the time to school me themselves. But, when I become a parent, I want to give my kid the best chance to succeed and that means the best schooling that I can find. At the moment, Flagstaff charter schools are far and beyond the best schools in town and that's where I would want my kids to go if they were growing up here.
6. Today, the church is sometimes portrayed negatively. What do you think we, as Christians, can do to change that portrayal?
Not be judgmental. Too often we think that by "advising" people that a certain life choice is not God's way, we are doing them a favor. But, in their eyes we are just judging their life choices. Jesus loved the lowest of all people and didn't critique them on their choices. He just loved them and I am pretty sure meeting people where they are and loving them despite any flaws that may or may not be Godly is the best policy for growing the church.
7. Can we pray for you? About what specifically?
I always need prayer about the future move I am making with Cassie to Missouri. I could also use prayer about a job that I should be hearing back from shortly.
8. If you had unlimited funds, what is the FIRST thing you would buy?
Probably a house for my love and I. As we consider this move to Missouri, that would make life a lot easier and we could find that house that is going to work perfectly for us.
9. What is your favorite Christian charity? Why?
World Vision. They do a lot to end poverty around the world. They don't just throw money at the problem but they set up areas of need. They set up offices, hire coordinators, create education programs for both how to farm and more traditional routes like schools for children. They are a long term program in regions needing help and they don't leave until the region is sustainable by itself. They also do humanitarian work when disasters strike across the world and when you look at their financials, they have one of the lowest admin percentages per dollar.
10. What is clinical psychology? (This one is for my own entertainment, many people have misconceptions about what it is and I am going to fix that in a future post!)
Clinical Psychology is the branch of psychology that deals with the assessment and treatment of some form of mental incapacity, be that addiction or other.
11. If you were to have five minutes with God, what would you tell Him?
I would thank Him for everything. I feel so blessed in my life and couldn't imagine how I would survive without His love and support. I don't need to know answers to questions, I just want to be thankful.
11 Facts about Me
1. I have earned quite a few athletic awards including state cyclocross series wins, state championships, qualifications for world triathlon races and age group and overall awards in cycling, running and triathlon.
2. My first bike was a red roadmaster with training wheels that I got when I was 3.5 years old and rode it until I was about 10.
3.I can lick my elbow.
4. In my life I have played a few instruments including, clarinet, violin, drums and most recently, banjo.
5. I have never had a full drink of alcohol in my life.
6. My grandpa has been an ordained minister for 69 years. He is 95 years old.
7. My brother and I are only 18 months apart in age and one year in school and I would always latch on to his friends and he really hated me for it when we were younger. I would even go to sleep overs with him.
8. I started a photography business last year. www.bonessphoto.com
9. I have been on 7 or 8 cruises. I've lost count.
10. My number one place to want to see is Nepal.
11.My favorite place in the world is the North Rim of Grand Canyon.
Regardless, I have ridden my bike everyday this week except yesterday (which turned into a great choice because the wind was horrendous and I ended up staying on for a 12+ hour shift.
How can you not ride when your view looks like this.
I have put in 319 Kilometers this month. For those less attuned to the metric system, that's a bit over 190 miles this month. Mostly commuting to and from work. My goal is to hit 250 by month's end, which only takes 3 more days of commuting to hit my goal!
I am already feeling a change of health over my sedentary winter lifestyle. I have started going to a sports chiropractor to get this issue with my foot worked out.
Long story short, my foot began hurting about 19 months ago when I ran. It hasn't gone away completely and I am ready to get back running without worrying about making any injury worse. My Chiropractor, Kim Wilkens, works with sports injuries and I was referred by a friend who does Ironman Triathlons. In fact, he doesn't just do them, he annihilates them! He was 21st overall (including the pros), and 7th overall amateur at last week's Memorial Hermann Ironman in Texas. Pretty amazing.
Onto totally unrelated news. Cassie at Sage nominated me for the Liebster award. Pretty sure she hasn't read my blog or she may think differently. ;) Probably because we are dating (full disclosure) and good couples support each other. So, thank you! What is it you might ask? Here you go:
The word "Liebster" is German for the word "sweetheart" or "dearest." This originated from a German blogger and is for up-and-coming bloggers with less than 3,000 followers. Basically it is NOT an award that is given by judges and a panel of experts on the subject of blogging, rather it is an award from blogging peers who consider you worth giving an award to for your blogger personality. It is now for bloggers with less than 200 followers who have potential. The main point and why to get excited about it, is that it is an award to share love and build community with other bloggers.
After being acknowledged, you should...
1. Acknowledge the blog that nominated you in a post.
2. Answer the 11 questions the nominating blogger created.
3. Tell 11 facts about yourself.
4. List 5 to 11 bloggers with less than 200 followers that you believe deserve some recognition.
5. Post 11 questions for them to answer.
6. Notify all the bloggers selected that they have been nominated and ask them to pass it on.
11 Questions to answer
1. What motivates you to blog?
I think having an outlet to voice my feelings, opinions, advice and wisdom for others who might find it helpful is what drives me to blog.
2. How did you get your first name?
That's a great question that I don't know the answer to. I know that my name (First and Middle) were chosen because of biblical significance, but not sure if that was the main reasoning.
3. What do you think about the phrase, "Let go and let God." What significance does this statement hold for you?
The lock screen on my phone says "Choose Faith, Not Worry" and I think it is similar. You have to realize that God already has a plan for you and your life is mapped out and if you let things worry you, you aren't trusting in God's great plan.
4. What is your opinion on reality television?
I like some shows and can't stand others. Some have substance, some are just debaucherous and I try to avoid those, although sometimes it's just nice to watch a show for the pure enjoyment and nothing else.
5. Public school or homeschooling (even if you are not a mom), and why?
How about charter school! I was a public school kid and didn't mind it in the least. There weren't that many options when I was growing up and God knows my parents did not have the time to school me themselves. But, when I become a parent, I want to give my kid the best chance to succeed and that means the best schooling that I can find. At the moment, Flagstaff charter schools are far and beyond the best schools in town and that's where I would want my kids to go if they were growing up here.
6. Today, the church is sometimes portrayed negatively. What do you think we, as Christians, can do to change that portrayal?
Not be judgmental. Too often we think that by "advising" people that a certain life choice is not God's way, we are doing them a favor. But, in their eyes we are just judging their life choices. Jesus loved the lowest of all people and didn't critique them on their choices. He just loved them and I am pretty sure meeting people where they are and loving them despite any flaws that may or may not be Godly is the best policy for growing the church.
7. Can we pray for you? About what specifically?
I always need prayer about the future move I am making with Cassie to Missouri. I could also use prayer about a job that I should be hearing back from shortly.
8. If you had unlimited funds, what is the FIRST thing you would buy?
Probably a house for my love and I. As we consider this move to Missouri, that would make life a lot easier and we could find that house that is going to work perfectly for us.
9. What is your favorite Christian charity? Why?
World Vision. They do a lot to end poverty around the world. They don't just throw money at the problem but they set up areas of need. They set up offices, hire coordinators, create education programs for both how to farm and more traditional routes like schools for children. They are a long term program in regions needing help and they don't leave until the region is sustainable by itself. They also do humanitarian work when disasters strike across the world and when you look at their financials, they have one of the lowest admin percentages per dollar.
10. What is clinical psychology? (This one is for my own entertainment, many people have misconceptions about what it is and I am going to fix that in a future post!)
Clinical Psychology is the branch of psychology that deals with the assessment and treatment of some form of mental incapacity, be that addiction or other.
11. If you were to have five minutes with God, what would you tell Him?
I would thank Him for everything. I feel so blessed in my life and couldn't imagine how I would survive without His love and support. I don't need to know answers to questions, I just want to be thankful.
11 Facts about Me
1. I have earned quite a few athletic awards including state cyclocross series wins, state championships, qualifications for world triathlon races and age group and overall awards in cycling, running and triathlon.
2. My first bike was a red roadmaster with training wheels that I got when I was 3.5 years old and rode it until I was about 10.
3.I can lick my elbow.
4. In my life I have played a few instruments including, clarinet, violin, drums and most recently, banjo.
5. I have never had a full drink of alcohol in my life.
6. My grandpa has been an ordained minister for 69 years. He is 95 years old.
7. My brother and I are only 18 months apart in age and one year in school and I would always latch on to his friends and he really hated me for it when we were younger. I would even go to sleep overs with him.
8. I started a photography business last year. www.bonessphoto.com
9. I have been on 7 or 8 cruises. I've lost count.
10. My number one place to want to see is Nepal.
11.My favorite place in the world is the North Rim of Grand Canyon.
Saturday, May 18, 2013
Back to the Basics
"God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have
shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them."
Hebrews 6:10
It's time to take a step back. Recently, I have been writing about graduations, adventures in the woods and linking up questions about myself. I will continue to do that, however, I am taking a moment to return to the foundation of this blog: encouraging others in their Christian walk.
As Hebrews says above in today's verse, God is not unjust. What's even cooler, is that He is incredibly Just! He always does the fair thing, the right thing, the loving thing and always forgets about those things that we do wrong or with bad intentions. He doesn't hold grudges, jealousy or hate for us despite our sinful ways.
He is perfect.
I tend to get caught up in sinful things, we all do. Sometimes it's just the easiest thing to do in a situation, sometimes it's a conscious decision. These past few weeks at work have been a back and forth roller coaster when a certain co worker comes up in conversation. She is new and is learning the ropes. The rest of the supervisor team has known each other for at least a few years, if not more and it has to be hard for her to step into that group and not feel a little awkward. It's easy for the rest of us to scrutinize and comment on the work she does and the person she is because she is an outsider. I do it.
There is a fine line between offering constructive criticism and gossip. I am guilty of both. I want to give her the benefit of the doubt but I will say that there has been a lot that she just hasn't done right in the position so far and some of the criticism is justified for her growth and knowledge. But the important thing is that we keep in mind her growth and success, not her failures and troubles.
God sent Jesus so that we could see a human in which to strive for. He wants us to become like Jesus. He didn't say, "become like Me!" We would have no idea where to start becoming an all encompassing being whom we are not even sure what He looks like. But, He put Himself in Jesus and said "Follow Me." And that was something we could do.
Jesus forgives. There is no doubt about that. It doesn't matter the sin we commit, He forgives us. And we need to strive to forgive those around us and build them up. That's what He wants from us.
Hebrews 6:10
It's time to take a step back. Recently, I have been writing about graduations, adventures in the woods and linking up questions about myself. I will continue to do that, however, I am taking a moment to return to the foundation of this blog: encouraging others in their Christian walk.
As Hebrews says above in today's verse, God is not unjust. What's even cooler, is that He is incredibly Just! He always does the fair thing, the right thing, the loving thing and always forgets about those things that we do wrong or with bad intentions. He doesn't hold grudges, jealousy or hate for us despite our sinful ways.
He is perfect.
I tend to get caught up in sinful things, we all do. Sometimes it's just the easiest thing to do in a situation, sometimes it's a conscious decision. These past few weeks at work have been a back and forth roller coaster when a certain co worker comes up in conversation. She is new and is learning the ropes. The rest of the supervisor team has known each other for at least a few years, if not more and it has to be hard for her to step into that group and not feel a little awkward. It's easy for the rest of us to scrutinize and comment on the work she does and the person she is because she is an outsider. I do it.
There is a fine line between offering constructive criticism and gossip. I am guilty of both. I want to give her the benefit of the doubt but I will say that there has been a lot that she just hasn't done right in the position so far and some of the criticism is justified for her growth and knowledge. But the important thing is that we keep in mind her growth and success, not her failures and troubles.
God sent Jesus so that we could see a human in which to strive for. He wants us to become like Jesus. He didn't say, "become like Me!" We would have no idea where to start becoming an all encompassing being whom we are not even sure what He looks like. But, He put Himself in Jesus and said "Follow Me." And that was something we could do.
Jesus forgives. There is no doubt about that. It doesn't matter the sin we commit, He forgives us. And we need to strive to forgive those around us and build them up. That's what He wants from us.
Wednesday, May 15, 2013
Adventuring About
"Let all creation rejoice before the Lord, for he comes, he comes to judge the earth. He will judge the world in righteousness and the peoples in his faithfulness."
Psalm 96:13
On my days off, nothing helps me feel better about life than adventuring around.
There is truly no better way to explain what I do except "adventuring". It literally entails driving up forest roads, pulling off at certain points that look interesting and walking into the woods. No trail. No destination. Just a camera, some food and water. Adventure.
I come across animals, dead and alive, archaeological sites, meadows, cattle corrals, old homestead houses and lots of trees and grass.
My plan today wasn't even to go adventuring. I had planned to go to Lockett Meadow because I haven't been there in over three years and take some photos of the blooming aspens. Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately) the road was closed. I turned around and found Forest Road 418 which has been on my list of roads to explore. It circumnavigates the North side of the San Francisco Peaks, which are impossible to miss from Flagstaff.
I spent about 3 hours out in the woods today and found my first pair of antlers, a couple more elk skeletons, tons of aluminum cans (my dad and I collect them to recycle), a red tailed hawk and some spectacular views.
Enjoy the photos and take a gander at photos from other adventures at my photography site.
Tuesday, May 14, 2013
Mind Blown
I was watching "Right This Minute" (AKA "RTM" for those in the know) this afternoon. For those out of the know, it is a midday show that most people with real jobs probably never get to watch because of it's obscure time in the schedule, that plays videos that are viral on the internet. It takes the top videos each day and talks about them. Think, "Ridiculousness" and "Tosh.0" without the immaturity and rude commentary.
Anyway, they played the video that is below. Wait for your mind to be blown. Enjoy. You're welcome.
Sunday, May 12, 2013
Celebrating the Girl
I can't help but count my blessing from time to time, because I am tremendously blessed.
First off, my girlfriend Cassie graduated from Northern Arizona University on Friday morning. She is one of the most spectacular people I know. 4.0 GPA, president emeritus of the Psychology club, godly woman, tons of smarts, wits and drive. Amazing.
We did the whole graduation ceremony thing, which was just the kick off to a long and crazy weekend. By the way, when did graduations become so crazy?! Airhorns? Really?
We followed up the ceremony with a wonderful lunch at Oak Creek Brewery at Tlaquepaque. (I dare you to say it.)
And a wonderful night with her brother, sister and brother in law at Dave and Buster's in Tempe. What a wonderful place for a kid stuck in a grown ups body to feel right at home. Who else is really five years old still?! Anyone?
The actual party was Saturday afternoon and after a morning of getting ready and lounging by her parents gorgeous new pool sanctuary, the family and friends started flowing in. It was an all afternoon/evening affair and totally worth all the build up for celebrating such a wonderful woman.
And of course, Mother's Day was today. I will be the first to admit that I sometimes get testy with my mom and I always end up regretting it, because my mom is a pretty special woman who only has love in her heart.
First off, my girlfriend Cassie graduated from Northern Arizona University on Friday morning. She is one of the most spectacular people I know. 4.0 GPA, president emeritus of the Psychology club, godly woman, tons of smarts, wits and drive. Amazing.
We did the whole graduation ceremony thing, which was just the kick off to a long and crazy weekend. By the way, when did graduations become so crazy?! Airhorns? Really?
Cassie has "2013" written on her cap.
We followed up the ceremony with a wonderful lunch at Oak Creek Brewery at Tlaquepaque. (I dare you to say it.)
And a wonderful night with her brother, sister and brother in law at Dave and Buster's in Tempe. What a wonderful place for a kid stuck in a grown ups body to feel right at home. Who else is really five years old still?! Anyone?
The actual party was Saturday afternoon and after a morning of getting ready and lounging by her parents gorgeous new pool sanctuary, the family and friends started flowing in. It was an all afternoon/evening affair and totally worth all the build up for celebrating such a wonderful woman.
Happy Mother's day to every mother out there!
Thursday, May 9, 2013
First Link Up...Gettin Crazy
Unlike my siblings (who I love very much).... I don't work at a bar, don't fight fires (except those in my fireplace) and like the taste of tomatoes.
My best friend says... that I took advantage of his height when we were younger and now he is 6'3" and I'm still 5' 7". He got the last laugh.
People call me... many things. At work alone, my nicknames are "Horchata," "SnackPack," and "Winter Phlegm". Winter phlegm is at least kind of cool as a super villian.
I most often dream... when I'm sleeping. Although I have been caught day dreaming on many occasions.
The best part of my day... used to be Price is Right hour. However, work unceremoniously and quite rudely interrupted my alone time with Drew Carey and those crazy deals!
I really don't understand... why it takes so long to learn instruments. Some people are so good and all I care to do is be a banjo hero.
I get really annoyed... at other drivers. Most of the time. And only when they do crazy things.
There's nothing like a... a sky full of the milky way.
Lately, I can't get enough... my new Columbia jacket. I am tempted to face overheating when the weather warms up just so I can wear it.
One thing I am NOT is... boring. Under my schdedule driven, monotonous work life, I have a lot of cool stories to tell.
I spent too much money on... $.25 toys when I was younger. I always imagine how much I might have saved today if I hadn't been tempted by so many unfulfilling colorful sugar balls.
I want to learn.... spanish. Never had the patience, always wanted to know.
If I ever met Celine Dion, I would... tell her the story of this poem I wrote in High School asking Canada to take her back. Serious.
I can't stop... Won't stop. *Shoulder Shake*
Never have I ever... broken a bone.
Reese Witherspoon... She has her good days and her bad.
Friday, May 3, 2013
Dudes Night
"A friend loves at all times,
and a brother is born for a time of adversity."
-Proverbs 17:17
I am not a partier. I don't drink, truly get overwhelmed at mass amounts of people sharing my space, and I usually try to go to bed about 9 o'clock each night. Not a partier.
So when I say "Dudes Night" I mean, I met up with a bunch of really good buddies from high school and went to...wait for it... Oregano's for dinner. Wild and out of control, I know.
Cassie wrote about the importance of having close girlfriends as a woman, and I am here to write about having good guy friends as a dude.
Lucky for me, I have stayed in relatively close contact with a good group of individuals from high school. It's obviously easier for me as I still live in my hometown where I graduated. But, that is not to say that I haven't made good friends since then either. Specifically, the guys from last night were close to me because of track and field. I was a distance athlete in high school, running the 800m, 1600m(mile) and 3200m. My senior year, there were five of us all running well in the 800m race. All season we were switching up the order and trying new rotations in the 4x800m relay. We were actually doing quite well in the state as far as our time was concerned. During the regionals race, our coach told myself and another runner, Kaleb, that the person to finish first between the two of us would earn the last spot on the relay team for the state championships. After a hard fought and truly fun 800m race, Kaleb came out on top by about two seconds. I wasn't in the least angry or bitter about missing out on racing in state because over the course of the season, and the past four years of running together, I was proud of him for making it.
The next day, our 4x8 team won the regional title and to put the cherry on top, the boy's team won the regional team title as well.
Fast forward to the state championships. I was the alternate for the team, but didn't even bring my track spikes (shoes) because I knew that this was the team that had to run the race. I was just as nervous as they were before the race and when the gun went off to signal the start, I was screaming as loud as I could. I almost lost my voice. When Rick, our last leg of the relay, received the baton, we had a lead that looked pretty hard to catch. We were gonna win the state title.
We did win the state title and set a school record in the process. My coach decided it appropriate to give me a medal for the win as well, despite not running a step in the race, because he knew the friendship we had all forged and the whole season of work we had put in to get to that point. It meant a lot to me to be included on that team with those guys.
Three years later, one of the guys who set the record and won the state championship, did it again his senior year with a new crew of guys.
We started a tradition in high school of getting together for Oregano's with not only the guys from that team, but with guys who mean a lot to us and also ran with us in high school.
Currently, we are all different ages and at different times in our lives. Two are married, one is in the navy, one has a sweet baby girl, the guy who won state twice, three years apart, still runs for Northern Arizona University and has become one of the best runners in the country, one is finishing nursing school, one is recently home from his mission. But, even after six years from that race, we still can get together and laugh and have a good time because we forged a care for each other that is more than just a memory of a great state championship.
Balance in life is important. Work and play, health and doughnuts, friends and family. Sometimes it is about nothing more than lifting your spirit with a few guys that you have a good friendship with.
The moral is, keep your friendships and nurture them. It's important to have a group of like minded friends who can always give you uplifting memories from time to time.
and a brother is born for a time of adversity."
-Proverbs 17:17
I am not a partier. I don't drink, truly get overwhelmed at mass amounts of people sharing my space, and I usually try to go to bed about 9 o'clock each night. Not a partier.
So when I say "Dudes Night" I mean, I met up with a bunch of really good buddies from high school and went to...wait for it... Oregano's for dinner. Wild and out of control, I know.
Cassie wrote about the importance of having close girlfriends as a woman, and I am here to write about having good guy friends as a dude.
Lucky for me, I have stayed in relatively close contact with a good group of individuals from high school. It's obviously easier for me as I still live in my hometown where I graduated. But, that is not to say that I haven't made good friends since then either. Specifically, the guys from last night were close to me because of track and field. I was a distance athlete in high school, running the 800m, 1600m(mile) and 3200m. My senior year, there were five of us all running well in the 800m race. All season we were switching up the order and trying new rotations in the 4x800m relay. We were actually doing quite well in the state as far as our time was concerned. During the regionals race, our coach told myself and another runner, Kaleb, that the person to finish first between the two of us would earn the last spot on the relay team for the state championships. After a hard fought and truly fun 800m race, Kaleb came out on top by about two seconds. I wasn't in the least angry or bitter about missing out on racing in state because over the course of the season, and the past four years of running together, I was proud of him for making it.
The next day, our 4x8 team won the regional title and to put the cherry on top, the boy's team won the regional team title as well.
Fast forward to the state championships. I was the alternate for the team, but didn't even bring my track spikes (shoes) because I knew that this was the team that had to run the race. I was just as nervous as they were before the race and when the gun went off to signal the start, I was screaming as loud as I could. I almost lost my voice. When Rick, our last leg of the relay, received the baton, we had a lead that looked pretty hard to catch. We were gonna win the state title.
We did win the state title and set a school record in the process. My coach decided it appropriate to give me a medal for the win as well, despite not running a step in the race, because he knew the friendship we had all forged and the whole season of work we had put in to get to that point. It meant a lot to me to be included on that team with those guys.
Three years later, one of the guys who set the record and won the state championship, did it again his senior year with a new crew of guys.
We started a tradition in high school of getting together for Oregano's with not only the guys from that team, but with guys who mean a lot to us and also ran with us in high school.
Currently, we are all different ages and at different times in our lives. Two are married, one is in the navy, one has a sweet baby girl, the guy who won state twice, three years apart, still runs for Northern Arizona University and has become one of the best runners in the country, one is finishing nursing school, one is recently home from his mission. But, even after six years from that race, we still can get together and laugh and have a good time because we forged a care for each other that is more than just a memory of a great state championship.
Balance in life is important. Work and play, health and doughnuts, friends and family. Sometimes it is about nothing more than lifting your spirit with a few guys that you have a good friendship with.
The moral is, keep your friendships and nurture them. It's important to have a group of like minded friends who can always give you uplifting memories from time to time.